Too often when we talk about pleasuring men, we focus a great deal around purely entertaining an erect penis. Yeah, the penis is a major erotic zone, but there is so much more to a man’s sexuality than just the position a man strokes his penis. Men can enjoy foreplay, vibrators, and other forms of exploration. There is not one trick that fits all for any man, so take a few of my recommendations and see what works for you. Here are a few suggestions from top to bottom to explore the next time you are with your honey.
Scalp: Many men enjoy a good scalp massage as foreplay. To add to the sensation, apply light peppermint oil onto your fingertips and massage it into the scalp. Major turn on. Some of you might remember the movie School Daze. If you have time go back to Tisha Campbell’s scene. This is a pretty amazing example of how erotic entertaining the top of the head can be.
Eyes: men love visuals when making love. Wearing lingerie or knowing positions that your body to accentuate your body can really add to the excitement. Making eye contact when performing oral sex or periodically while having sex can be an amazing treat also.
Ears: moans, groans, dirty talk, or even silence can all be turn-ons depending on your partner’s delights. Experiment with different sounds and see what works for both of you. Also, blowing, biting, and whispering in a man’s ear can be very erotic. Try this next time you are at a restaurant or movie and see his response.
Nose: smells, some men like it natural, some like a little perfume, some like it a little musky. Ask your partner what turns him on. Maybe a nice date would be to go to a fragrance counter and try on different perfumes.
Lips: Some like them wet, some like them dry, some like a little tongue action, and some don’t mind fingertips.
Tongue tip: Try sucking his tongue like you would his penis.
Neck: Nibble, suck, bite, kiss. Can be a major weakness for some.
Hands and Feet: Both are full of meridian points that connect to the entire body. Giving a nice hand or feet massage or manicure/pedicure can be just the right thing to keep your man coming back for more. Try to add a little arm or leg massage in your mani/pedi, and see what may arise.
Chest and Back: some men really enjoy a nice back and chest massage. A lot of times nipples are ignored. Go back and see how he responds to some nipple play using your tongue or lightly pinching. Kissing your man’s abs and stomach can be quite the turn on; especially if they know you will be going even lower soon. Light waxes, oils, edibles, ticklers, vibrators, and floggers can be great to use in these areas for added play.
Now onto the lower regions:
Butt: Have you ever had a butt massage? After a long day of setting sometimes a nice butt massage can make anyone’s day. While you are in that region, anal and prostate massages can be very pleasurable for men. The male g-spot can be found by giving a prostate massage. People have their boundaries so make sure you ask prior to entering into this territory. Many enjoy a little tongue action prior to exploring penetration. Do this with caution, as you might not want to be exposed to certain bacteria. There are also different vibrators that can be placed externally on the anus to give stimulation without penetration. The backside gets neglected all too often with men.
Perineum/Taint: The perineum is the space in between the balls and the anus.
Many men find great pleasure in having this stimulated orally or by using a
vibration. This is an amazing area to apply stimulation to while performing oral sex
with a vibrator.
Scrotum/Balls: Suck, lick, tug, pull, massage, vibrate, etc. Every man has his
threshold and desires for play. Multitask while having intercourse or oral sex by
adding some loving to his fun bags.
And Finally, The Penis: Oh the places we can go… I can probably write another
article completely on this topic, but here are some quick tips to use. First, one of the
most sensitive spots on the penis is the frenulum, also known as the V-Spot. It is a
V-shaped ridge at the top of the penis. Feel free to focus your tongue around this
spot when giving oral sex or focus your well-lubed fingers in this area for your next
hand job. Learning deep breathing exercises can greatly help with deep throating
and the overall performance of oral sex. Imagining taking the penis in with every
deep breath, and then actually doing it can work wonders.
Don’t be afraid to grip your partner’s penis. Many males can enjoy a good grip. Ask your partner to show and tell you what he likes. Have him masturbate in front of you, and watch where you see him focus his hand, what areas does he stroke harder or softer, watch the pace of his hand stroke. You can learn a lot by watching your partner please himself.
In regards to oral, Angel’s Fellatio videos are amazing. I believe she also has a grapefruit video (A little too messy for my preference, but worth trying). You don’t have to do every single step in her video, but just incorporating one or two of her techniques can up your sex game exponentially.
There are no limits in exploring your partner. Sex doesn’t have to be all about the intercourse, but the pursuit of pleasure and intimacy for your partner and self. There are only two parts of the body that are unable to receive sensation and that is the tip of the fingernail and hair. Don’t be afraid to pamper your man with some extra TLC. Use your imagination, explore, and have fun.