First go to MD.
-Being unable to stay present in the moment
-Shame/Guilt: Sex is a natural part of life. It’s a part of being human. Seeing a therapist. Christian principals, “We were created to procreate”
-Past Trauma-Seek a professional
-Relationship Issues: Trust Issues: Might not like your partner/Might like your partner too much
-Tips: Know your body-Body Mapping *You can make anyone your sex toy if you know your body.” Don’t blame your partner if you don’t know yourself.
*Be Present-Learn to relax- Practice mindfulness. When you are doing dishes-focus on the dishes. How does the water feel, how do the bubbles look on your skin, what is the motion you are making with your hands. Don’t be in autopilot thinking about the next thing on your plate. The more you practice mindfulness in your daily activities the more you can bring it into your intimate encounters.
*Learn to communicate-Learn to say yes and no- having poor boundaries in your daily life. Not knowing what you want or how to say yes and no in your daily activities only adds to your not allowing yourself to experience your intimate encounters fully. Learn to say yes, no, I need and want this? What do you want?
*Lastly, seek professional help. Sometimes we have deep-rooted blocks that prevent us from adequately reflecting on where are problems lye. WE didn’t come in the world alone. Get help. I’m available online for coaching and for those in the Nashville area for coaching and therapy. If you are not in TN, and would like to work with someone face-to-face contact me, I have a large network of therapist I work with that would be more than happy to help you.